Parents of Multiples Chat Board: It is an individual decision

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ganztwins
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posted October 22, 2001 03:38 PM

As we have stated many times, separating your twins is an individual choice. We were separated in school but our mom did not have a choice. There have been manu multiples that seem to excel more when kept together and some that excel more when separated. Do not let your schools make that decision for you. Lisa and Debbie

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almoke
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posted August 27, 2002 09:23 PM

How do you go about having your twins kept in the same class if that's not the schools policy? Any advice on how to handle this?

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TwinCrier
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posted January 01, 2003 11:28 PM

Ask to see "the policy." Often it is just the principals 'opinion' that twins should be separated. Can you imagine someone deciding that a married couple should be separated???
The National Organization of Mothers of Twins club has a booklet about this subject you could request the principal read to become more informed. Also this is a good article where parents won the right to keep their twins together: http://www.ftimes.com/Main.asp?SectionID=1&SubSectionID=1&ArticleID=15080
It certainly puts a burden on parents to have to schedule two teacher conferences in the same grade with different teachers, providing snacks for two classes on their birthday, dividing your time between two classes going on different fieldtrips, etc. Often educators have some outdated ideas that twins will lose their individuality, not become individuals or compete with each other and that making them be apart will somehow solve these problems.... which usually don't exist.

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Diane
Mom of identical twins Christiane & Charissa

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trips95
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posted March 24, 2003 09:31 PM

On the other side of the fence-- My children are able to get breaks from each other, so that they aren't as likely to fight at home. I just make sure I schedule conferences right after one another. When field trips are planned both classes go at the same time and the teachers let all 3 of them go with me. Snacks can be cheaply made or bought, but if I can't afford for all, I just don't get any at all. I think that parents need to decide for their own children since all children are different.

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JJoy
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posted September 07, 2004 07:28 PM

Agreed with the last poster. Our school district has a policy that twins be separated starting with first grade, and my children were very ready to be in separate classes by then. It really does foster an individual sense of identity.

As far as the inconvenience of separate classroom birthday parties, teacher conferences, etc--what is the big deal? Parents of singletons do it all the time.

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Mom of twins

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