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Topic: HELLO EVERYONE!!! I'M NEW HERE, BUT NOT TO TWINS!!
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MELISSA CONNER
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posted January 14, 2005 11:27 PM
MY NAME IS MELISSA CONNER!! FIRST LET ME TELL YOU A LITTLE ABOUT MYSELF. AT 19, I BECAME PREGNANT, MARRIED MY HUSBAND AND TOOK ON BEING MOTHER OF HIS 5YR & 2YR OLD, THEN AT 5 1/2 MOS. PREGNANT, FOUND OUT WE WERE HAVING IDENTICAL TWIN BOYS!! EVERYONE WAS SYMPATHETIC FOR ME, HOWEVER, I WAS A STARRY-EYED NEW MOTHER. IT WAS EASY & GREAT!! AFTER A WHILE EVERYONE GOT USED TO ME GETTING ALONG SO GREAT. THEN AS THE TWINS WERE 3 AND I WAS THE MAIN PARENT OF MY HUSBAND'S OTHER TWO SONS. THE INNOCENT BABY STAGE WAS GONE, MAKING ME REALIZE THAT IT WAS TIME TO HAVE RULES, DISCIPLINE AND ORDER. IT WAS HARD BECAUSE I ACTED AS A "FRIEND" OF THE OLDER TWO. DEFINATELY NOT "BEING MEAN" OUT OF WANTING TO BE ACCEPTED BY THEM. MY TWINS GOT OLD ENOUGH TO START ACTING AS THE OLDER TWO WERE AND I REALIZED THE ROLE I WAS LEADING WAS NOT GOOD FOR THEIR UPBRINGING. BEING THE "FUN FRIEND" WAS NOT GOOD. I HAD TO SET RULES, BOUNDARIES, & STANDARDS. AND BE FIRM WITH THEM. AND NOT BE A PUSH OVER!! I JUST GOT PAST FEELING LIKE IT WASN'T FAIR I HAD TO BE MEAN. CUZ' NOW THAT MY BOYS HAVE ACCEPTED THE WAY THINGS WORK, THEY DON'T SPEND AS MUCH TIME TRYING TO MAKE ME OUT TO BE SO MEAN. I WOULD LIKE TO TALK WITH SOME ONE THAT HAS A SIMILIAR LIFE TO SHARE THOUGHTS, EXPERIENCES, AND IDEAS WITH THROUGH THIS WILD ADVENTURE OF CHILDRAISING!!!!
Posts: 1 | From: FLORIDA | Registered: Jan 2005
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Supermother
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posted January 30, 2005 06:35 PM
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Originally posted by MELISSA CONNER:
MY NAME IS MELISSA CONNER!! FIRST LET ME TELL YOU A LITTLE ABOUT MYSELF. AT 19, I BECAME PREGNANT, MARRIED MY HUSBAND AND TOOK ON BEING MOTHER OF HIS 5YR & 2YR OLD, THEN AT 5 1/2 MOS. PREGNANT, FOUND OUT WE WERE HAVING IDENTICAL TWIN BOYS!! EVERYONE WAS SYMPATHETIC FOR ME, HOWEVER, I WAS A STARRY-EYED NEW MOTHER. IT WAS EASY & GREAT!! AFTER A WHILE EVERYONE GOT USED TO ME GETTING ALONG SO GREAT. THEN AS THE TWINS WERE 3 AND I WAS THE MAIN PARENT OF MY HUSBAND'S OTHER TWO SONS. THE INNOCENT BABY STAGE WAS GONE, MAKING ME REALIZE THAT IT WAS TIME TO HAVE RULES, DISCIPLINE AND ORDER. IT WAS HARD BECAUSE I ACTED AS A "FRIEND" OF THE OLDER TWO. DEFINATELY NOT "BEING MEAN" OUT OF WANTING TO BE ACCEPTED BY THEM. MY TWINS GOT OLD ENOUGH TO START ACTING AS THE OLDER TWO WERE AND I REALIZED THE ROLE I WAS LEADING WAS NOT GOOD FOR THEIR UPBRINGING. BEING THE "FUN FRIEND" WAS NOT GOOD. I HAD TO SET RULES, BOUNDARIES, & STANDARDS. AND BE FIRM WITH THEM. AND NOT BE A PUSH OVER!! I JUST GOT PAST FEELING LIKE IT WASN'T FAIR I HAD TO BE MEAN. CUZ' NOW THAT MY BOYS HAVE ACCEPTED THE WAY THINGS WORK, THEY DON'T SPEND AS MUCH TIME TRYING TO MAKE ME OUT TO BE SO MEAN. I WOULD LIKE TO TALK WITH SOME ONE THAT HAS A SIMILIAR LIFE TO SHARE THOUGHTS, EXPERIENCES, AND IDEAS WITH THROUGH THIS WILD ADVENTURE OF CHILDRAISING!!!!
Florida ha?
whereabouts?
I'm in flroida too! -------------------- Lelis
SAHM to id twin boys
Posts: 1 | From: Miami | Registered: Jan 2005
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