The incident began during breakfast with my four year old son and our dad at a local IHOP. Both my dad and I thought my sister was being very rude and disrespectful to the waiter. I guess she didn't like what we were saying because she starts cursing and saying I don't care what you think, you can't tell me how to speak to someone, blah, blah blah. I kindly asked her not to use profanity in the presence of me or my son. She dismissed my request and went on and on. My dad became really upset and insisted that we just finish our meal and leave the issue alone.

On the way back to my house, my dad began a conversation about our older brother who is having marital and financial problems. He asked me what I thought about my brother's situation. Well, I'm a Christian, and I explained why I thought my brother's problems were a result of his sinful lifestyle.

My sister exploded and began yelling and cursing me out, saying who do you think you are, you are not a nice person, you are one of the meanest people I know, I'm tired of your s*%t. I was dumbfounded. I had just endured a similar tirade from her a few months ago. I had forgiven her for the previous tirade, but this time I just can't. She is not welcome in my house any more.

On and off throughout my life I have had to deal with what I think is my twin's jealousy of me. I was the first to graduate from college and my whole family attended the ceremony. But, when she graduated, only me and my mom attended. I was the first to get married and have children. She has never been married and is child-less. She always compares herself to me.

Througout our lives, along with the verbal abuse, she has physically attacked me or we've nearly come to blows. I love my sister and have NEVER EVER done to her the things she has done to me. I have always only wanted the best for her. I don't know what is wrong with her. She is not a Christian and is actually quite hostile toward Christian views. She's been seeing a therapist regularly for years, but it hasn't seemed to help her.

The weird thing is, she'll go off on me, not speak for weeks or months, and then act as if nothing happened. She has never apologized for her treatment of me or even acknowledged that she may have crossed the line a few times.

I have a twin bro.. we are 30 now.
im in a stable relationship, with a stepson and another coming.

me and my bro always need to be together but at the same tim e we fight and fight ahrd.. he makes me real angry.

he hurts me thru atacking my family... I think he's jealous, he 's divorced u see and has real trouble with relationships.. his past gf's dont get along with mine either.

ive always thought i was the one in control, and in my adolescence I lost my way somewhat. I started going bad at school when i had been an A grade student, I barely managed to pass thru university too,, in the same time he did well, but he had to work hard, but in earlier years it was proven I had a natural gift for scholastic endeavours and the such.

after uni, I continued to lose my way, gettign caught up in drugs, and basically living the wrong way. this is until Im et my partner... she set me straight again, and having a step son gave me the realisation of responsibility.

in the meantime, my bro got married, and bought a house etc, and I was really envious of his position.. I think this made him feel good I must add.

all throughout my life I had been touted as the "better" one until I lost my way that is.

now ive found my feet.. we fight... he thinks he's better in every pursuit, yet still seeks my approval on everything he does.

a recent example is.. he wanted to take up shooting as a sport.. i told him he was dumb.. I hate guns, and he go all upset and now we dont talk.

comparably, I llive in a better part of town, we hold comparable jobs, money wise (hes an accountant) he get better paid.

but I think I have a happier life and more in tune with other ppl.

socially I think hes self centred, obnoxious and mean.

I had to save him from getting his head punched in recently on 2 occasions.. this never happens to me???

now he tells me to F Off at any time, especially when i tell him a few home truths.

Im about to go away for 10 days on amotorcycle ride to the desert, and felt I had to makeup b4 i left but he wont take my calls.

I htink twin trouble is from jealousy.. hes my best friend and worst enemy..

Cheers

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Originally posted by christiantwin:
Yesterday, my twin sister said some of the nastiest things to me that I have ever heard. This is the second time in several months that she has gone off and insulted me. I am so hurt and angry I don't know what to do.

The incident began during breakfast with my four year old son and our dad at a local IHOP. Both my dad and I thought my sister was being very rude and disrespectful to the waiter. I guess she didn't like what we were saying because she starts cursing and saying I don't care what you think, you can't tell me how to speak to someone, blah, blah blah. I kindly asked her not to use profanity in the presence of me or my son. She dismissed my request and went on and on. My dad became really upset and insisted that we just finish our meal and leave the issue alone.

On the way back to my house, my dad began a conversation about our older brother who is having marital and financial problems. He asked me what I thought about my brother's situation. Well, I'm a Christian, and I explained why I thought my brother's problems were a result of his sinful lifestyle.

My sister exploded and began yelling and cursing me out, saying who do you think you are, you are not a nice person, you are one of the meanest people I know, I'm tired of your s*%t. I was dumbfounded. I had just endured a similar tirade from her a few months ago. I had forgiven her for the previous tirade, but this time I just can't. She is not welcome in my house any more.

On and off throughout my life I have had to deal with what I think is my twin's jealousy of me. I was the first to graduate from college and my whole family attended the ceremony. But, when she graduated, only me and my mom attended. I was the first to get married and have children. She has never been married and is child-less. She always compares herself to me.

Througout our lives, along with the verbal abuse, she has physically attacked me or we've nearly come to blows. I love my sister and have NEVER EVER done to her the things she has done to me. I have always only wanted the best for her. I don't know what is wrong with her. She is not a Christian and is actually quite hostile toward Christian views. She's been seeing a therapist regularly for years, but it hasn't seemed to help her.

The weird thing is, she'll go off on me, not speak for weeks or months, and then act as if nothing happened. She has never apologized for her treatment of me or even acknowledged that she may have crossed the line a few times.

I pray for my sister, but at this point I just don't want to have anything to do with her. Am I wrong for feeling the way that I do?

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Christi

[ 11-15-2004: Message edited by: sadtwin ]