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momoftwins+6
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posted 08-16-2002 11:19 AM

I have twin boys who will be starting school next Aug. My school has a policy to separate ALL twins starting school. Does anyone have any links or information on this matter? Do I have a right to demand them to be kept together? Any help would be greatly appreciated...Thanks..

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Moe2the718
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posted 10-15-2002 05:06 PM

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Originally posted by momoftwins+6:
I have twin boys who will be starting school next Aug. My school has a policy to separate ALL twins starting school. Does anyone have any links or information on this matter? Do I have a right to demand them to be kept together? Any help would be greatly appreciated...Thanks..

well i am a twin and i was seperated from my sister in kindergarten(when it came to school) and i think that is better because the longer u wait the harder it is for twins to seperate ecspecially when they have to. so take my word for it, it is a good idea,because if u dont in the future it will be very tramatic and emotional for them.

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flyflytwinies
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posted 10-19-2002 04:30 AM

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Moe2the718:
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well i am a twin and when my sister and i started school our mother asked for us to be together and we ended up being in a composite class together, which i think was really well as we had each other to fall back on. We were also together in the same class for grade 2 and then we were asked if we wanted to be together in grade 3. At that stage i think we thought it was time for us to be in seprate classes and said no. I think that you should have the right to have your twins in the same class, and i dont think it will harm them in any way if they are kept together.
I don't believe that it will be too trumatic for them when they may have have to be seperated in a few years time. They may not be ready at the moment to be seperated, as they have spent alot of time with eachother and may find it hard. It might also be good to ask your children and see what they think about not being in the same classes?

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abubble6
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posted 12-18-2002 06:42 PM

i am a twin and my sister and i were actually together for kindergarten and then separated for the rest of school... to tell you the truth i think it is the best thing also... they are always getting treated as one i could imagine and this allows them to develop independently and become individuals.. also they are able to work alone and accomplish things on there on rather than expecting their twin to rely on.. this will promote growth as individuals and will help them grow in a positive way and in no way a negative way.. i think it is the right thing to do although i dont think it is a bad thing to be together they may become to dependent and end up being harder for them in the future.. but as i impied they need some space and time to grow alone rather than always as one

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The Cupcake Twins
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posted 02-21-2003 10:42 PM

Hi Mom of Twins!
We saw your post on the twin website. We are identical twins and we had this problem when we were little. Our mom ended up separating us when we were little b/c the school administration thought it was the best thing. In 4th grade we were finally put back together through the 8th grade. In High School we had some classes together then we went to the same college, we roomed together for the first three years then we shared an apartment. We also shared a car. We did have different majors.
Here is what we think, if the twins want to be together they should definatly be together. We have always found it easier to meet friends and have been more social when we are together. We think it is a big mistake for the school’s to try to dictate this. The parents would know best! You know your boys better than anyone!
We are now 27, we live one block apart, we have almost identical houses but completely separate jobs. Robin is an Airline Pilot and I am a Financial Advisor. We went for 6 months being separated and thank god I had an 800 number because we would talk 8 to 10 times a day, and still do. Robin married a Fraternal Twin; I married a guy that loves Robin almost as much as he loves me and vice versa. (We wanted to buy houses next to each other but it didn’t work out.) We love being together. We can't imagine being split up.
Our husbands think that we are crazy but love us. You don’t know how many times a day I will hit automatic dial and Robin is on the other end saying, are you calling me? The phone never even rang on either side. We are always showing up at parties wearing the same outfit, down to purse and shoes. How embarrassing is this! We have to say, “We really didn’t mean too”!!
Good luck and feel free to email us if you have any questions. We hope that your boys are as close as we are. There is nothing like having a best friend for life that knows what you are thinking at all times with just one glance.
Heidi and Robin
PS~ Robin’s husband, the Fraternal Twin was separated from his twin from the start. His parents wanted to make sure they were separate people. They were one year apart in school, forced to be in separate sports and activities. For many years they were very distant from each other and are just now starting to bond again. We feel this was a very poor decision on the parent’s part. We hope that your twins aren’t forced to be separated from the school system. They will be able to make those decisions on their own when they get older. If they feel they want to lead separate lives they will find a way to do it and hopefully remain close.
loonyplane@yahoo.com

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Andrea Selmser
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posted 03-13-2003 08:43 AM

hello! i was seperated in 1st grade and it was fine for me. now i am in 8th grade and my school allways seperates us so i never get to see her. it sucked. i never got to see her and i think they should have some classes together when they are older becase they purposely seperated us and i never got to see her.

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kellephant
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posted 04-09-2003 03:39 PM

I am a twin and my sis and I were together in Kindergarten and the school wanted to hold us back because we were too close!! I dont know what exactly that means, but when she would cry I would cry. My mom said no and that she would just separate us. We were separated all the way up until high school when we would randomly be put in the same biology class for example. I thought it was good. I didnt mind we still had the same friends and did everything together. but separating us I think gave us our own identity. It was also fun because you get some funny stories from teachers and classmates. You know ones like where people you dont know come up to you and start talking. It is so funny and people feel so dumb. (hehe)

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JavaTwin64
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posted 04-22-2003 01:58 AM

I am an identical Twin. My twin is Robin. We spent kidnergarden thru 4th grade together. after that we seperated, by our choice not by the school or our mother (father passed when we was 6yrs old). I feel that if your twins are together during the first 4 yrs in school than they can rely on each other, its important for twins to bond like that. After 4th grade we gradually had our own identity but still we had each others friends. Mine would go up to her and vise versa. Nobody could tell us apart until 11th grade. Let the Twins deside. By the way I'm now 38 yrs old and my twin lives in Germany I live in Tennessee. Thank goodness for computers/webcams/email/messenger services.

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carla
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posted 05-16-2003 11:50 AM

Hello! I have identical twin boys (age 14). I listened to the school officials when my boys started kindergarten and let them be put in seperate classes.I later found out it was MY choice about keeping them together or not.I had them put into the same classes starting in third grade thru the present (eighth grade) and guess what...they have done just fine!!!The officials like to tell us how to parent.Both of my boys have maintained all A/B's,have had perfect attendance four times,have played baseball/football,and are now posting a GPA of 3.6/3.7....so as a parent we need to do what we feel is right for OUR children...not always what the school officials want us to do.Now,as for high school,I really don't know how many classes they will have together..the school has over 2000 kids and with all the different courses,I told my boys we would have to play it by ear and see how it goes...they may end up together or apart...they said it didn't matter as much now.Good luck!!!

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jas527
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posted 05-22-2003 03:45 PM

My twin and I didn't have the first class together until we were freshman in high school. The hardest thing I ever had to deal with was moving to a new town and finding out I was a grade behind her. She was a sophomore, I was repeating as a freshman which meant different schools. It was tough, lots of councelling later we are 26 still live together, work 1.7 miles away from each other, go to lunch together every day. And wouldn't change it for the world. We have different outlooks on like and different personalities, but to this day we still get which one are you from everyone. I love being a twin.

Julie

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jessica_michigan_college_twin
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posted 05-30-2003 10:37 AM

I am completing my first year of college (at a different school than my identical twin!) and my sister and I were in the same kindergarten class but then separated in first grade. Starting school is such a huge, scary adjustment for kids...on the other hand, twins who are separated in Kindergarten are not only dealing with starting school, but being separated from their best friend and I guess you might even say, "second half." Kindergarten gave us a chance to make friends and become used to the concept of school, so we were definitely ready to be separated when first grade started without any problems at all. I hope this helps!

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twinb
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posted 06-11-2003 01:42 PM

My identical twin, Natalie, and I were required to attend separate elementary schools. We lived in Japan and it was a requirement of the schools there. The reason was to ensure that during the formative years, twins were not compared to one another, which could be detrimental to their confidence level. We did not have classes together until we were in high school. I think this was beneficial for a couple of reasons: 1)We developed as individuals without the pressure of comparison; 2)By the time we had to deal with comparisons (who was smarter, etc.), it didn't have the same impact.

Our family and home life ensured that we were always together and both encouraged our individual development as well as the closeness many twins have. To this day she is my best friend and no separation of any kind will change that.

Nellie

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twinspin23
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posted 06-11-2003 03:39 PM

My twin and I went thru grades K -12 together and even got an appt together after graduation. We lived together for 8 years and had no problem at all when it came time to seperate. Please keep your twins together. It helps to have a built in best friend when starting new things and being in new places.

My twin is my best friend and we call eachother constantly. No one understands me like my twin and vice versa. Keeping them together is a good thing. Twins are special and individuals so why seperate them? It helps to have a built in best friend when starting new things and being in new places.

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hyperswimchick
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posted 06-13-2003 03:23 PM

im one of a 14 year old boy/firl twin. my brother and i have not been in the same class since preschool. academically and socially, we have both excelled. however, we were extremely close before kindergarten. now we are very, very different individuals. i think it is a good thing to let twins be separated from one another. it lets them develop their own unique personalities. however, if you insist, you can request that your children be placed together, like my parents did with my brother and i's teams (2 teams for each grade, just to split up the large amount of students. each team has its own teaching staff) during middle school.

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Melissa26
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posted 06-20-2003 05:58 PM

Hi I'm a 14 year old twin and I would definately say that you should have them seperated. If they are put together, it will be harder for them to make friends because they will always play with each other because they are already really close and not form as many friendships on their own. They will also be treated as a set which is very frustrating as you get older.
This same thing happened to me and my sister when we were in Pre-k. We started out in the same class together, but we never played with anyone else but each other so our parents and teacher decided it would be better if we were in different classes. It worked out much better that way, although being with my twin beforehand did have an effect for me. I was less social with the other kids in my class and played more by myself. So I would definately start them out in different classes from the beggining.

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Kylee
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posted 06-22-2003 10:53 PM

Hey,

My twin and I are 17. We were in the same class till we were in middleschool. My mom was worried about us going to middleschool and being seperated but it didn't bother us at all. Although, now that we're in highschool and get to make our schedules we try and get as may classes together because we are the best of friends and have so much fun together and enjoy each others company. We go out together everyweekend. I don't think your twins should be seperated.....being together all that time helped us bond sooooooo much. And by the time middleschool rolled around we were mature enough to go different ways......although, now that we will be graduating this next year we do plan on going to the same college and are going into the same career! I think your twins should be in class together....thats the cool thing about a twin, you always have your best friend right there!

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MyTwoBoys
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posted 07-11-2003 03:26 PM

My fraternal twin boys are going to be in PreK this fall. We are keeping them together and will separate them when they go to kindergarten. They have been home with a sitter who has kept them at our house so I know they will have to make a big adjustment when they start PreK. I think that adjustment will be easier if they are together. There are 7 sets of twins starting preK with them - all the parents are keeping their twins together.
Angie

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MeGaN & MaEvE
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posted 08-20-2003 08:21 AM

When my sister and I went to school we were together for kindergarten, on request and then for other grades just randomly selected...if you really want your twins together it is probably a good idea especially if there is only one kindergarten (mornings & afternoons), if you can't do anything about it just relize that your twins will be making new friends and getting a little break from each other

, also if they are seperated the two classes will probably do a lot of stuff together

Good Luck!
-Megan
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and 3 sets of twins who are cousins

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Nancy-and-Sara
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posted 08-24-2003 09:36 PM

I think that you are their MOM, and you know best if they can handle it. If you think they are too young or too shy to be ok, go to the school board and get them in the same class!! It's up to you. Period. Nobody else's experiences have anything to do with how your kids will respond. If, on the other hand, you think they will be ok, then don't worry about it, it'll all work out. Once again, YOU KNOW BEST!! Good luck to you!

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MelissaO
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posted 09-04-2003 06:03 PM

I would also say that you are the best decision maker (as their parent) on if they should be split up or not. Then, when they are old enough to decide let them make the decision. My sister and I were together for most of our school years and now are at the same college. We chose different majors but still like to take general classes together when possible.

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Charli&Lyn
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posted 11-04-2003 11:19 PM

Wre just wondering about and saw this...probibly really old post, but decided to throw in our input anyways
WE are in the same school, and have the exct same scedual, we even tried to separat the classes, but ended up the same, we get along pretty well so its alright, and we have been separated in teh past, but its not tramatic or anything, we didn't mind the space apart...the thing we love most about having the same classes is that we can help each other with homework ^__^

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