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posted 02-07-2003 01:36 PM      Profile for Athletic24     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
I am a 24y/o gay male who is dating an identical twin. We have a very solid and caring relationship that is unlike any other I have experienced. My boyfriend's twin, who is straight, is also a very good friend of mine. I am posting this letter because I am worried about negative things that might happen if my boyfriend comes out.
My boyfriend's sexuality is, and has been, an issue between him and his twin for a while. It comes up during disagreements and the pressure he gets to be straight makes my boyfriend want to hide his sexuality more. Sexuality is also an issue because his twin is scared that if my boyfriend comes out, people will assume he is gay also. They are still very close, but I know this is a touchy subject for both of them.
I want to be as supportive as I can to my boyfriend (and his twin) while my boyfriend begins the coming out process. I wanted to ask if there were any twins out there who were in a similar situation where one of both of you came out and how people reacted to it. If anyone had any advice it would be greatly appreciated! Feel free to email me personally if you don't want to post on this website.
Thanks again!

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posted 08-29-2004 10:03 PM      Profile for iPeter   Email iPeter   Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
My head is spinning.


You're not a twin, but you're gay. You're dating someone who is also gay and who has a straight twin. They fight about the sexuality of your boyfriend.

Wow. Um.

I really have no advice, but...wow. I just had to offer condolences...


It takes two baby,
it takes two baby,
just me and you...

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posted 11-28-2004 04:54 AM      Profile for Peggy     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
I know this was posted almost a year ago, but how is it going at this point? Are you still with that twin? I am in your (ex?) bf's place, being the gay twin of a straight person, but I'm much luckier in that my sister is 100% comfortable with who I am and behind me on it. But if you or your boyfriend need to talk about it I would love to hear about your experiences with it.


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posted 01-01-2005 05:50 PM      Profile for easyfriday2000   Email easyfriday2000   Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
Well ya i am kind of late in relpying but i am the gay twin and i was so worried to tell my brother about me. We have always been so close and i didnt want to mess that up. I ended up telling him about 3 years ago and at first he was kind of weird about it but now he wants to be a bartender with me when i get back home in one of the gay clubs so we can make money :-) He has come a long way and i say just tell him . There is no way you could not love your twin everybody on here knows that. Oh he is my identical twin and i also have a twin sister (fraternal of course) so technically a triplett. Good luck though


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posted 01-05-2005 12:01 PM      Profile for Peggy     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
My sister was the only one that I did not have to come out to- she just, like, figured it out when I did. Or I guess you could say, we both just knew it all along.

Everyone else was really surprised though, because she was always wearing pants and playing with trucks, and I was always wearing skirts and playing house, so they figured she would be gay and I would be married right out of high school. Now I am gay and she is getting married, to a really cool guy.

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